If you’re new to kink, it can help to stick with clear, direct communication about your desires (for example, clearly telling your partner “yes” or “no” while playing - and “no” means “no”). Like all healthy sex and intimacy, kink is rooted in consent and communication. Many kinks can be enjoyed entirely solo, but if you decide to include other people in your kink, make sure you have a conversation with your partner(s) before trying anything new - and continue checking in while you play. To explore kink on your own, you can masturbate, consider a specific fantasy you have, or find porn or erotica focused on the elements from this list that catch your eye. If you’re interested in exploring your turn-ons, this list is a great place to begin. If you’re ready to experiment, I’ve got you covered with the ultimate list of kinks to try, where you’ll find sexy acts, titillating dynamics, and hot ideas for a spicy sex life. Preferences will be different for everyone, and it’s all about finding what makes you feel good. Part of the thrill of kink is doing something that feels a little bit taboo, but kink tends to be a moving target one person’s “kinky” is another person’s typical Tuesday night. Curious about kink, but not sure where to start? You’re not alone.

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